nightingaleclaire asked: As an amateur tarot reader, I struggle when two opposing cards come up in a reading (such as five of coins/nine of coins) - any tips on how to interpret opposite meanings for a specific question?
This is where the pictures on the cards become more important than the numbers, names, or traditional meanings, and you get to practice your actual reading skills.
If the combination of cards was a scene from a movie, what would be happening in that scene? Which direction does the action seem to be flowing? How do the figures on the cards seem to be interacting?
By using visual context clues, you can look at two opposing cards in numerous ways. Perhaps they indicate a choice between two paths. Perhaps they are opposing forces coming together. Perhaps they are a sequence of events unfolding a frame at a time. THIS is where your intuition comes in — not in terms of how it relates to your Querent (because that way lies cold reading) but in terms of what the cards themselves seem to be saying. Always focus on the cards.
You can actually do this with the Querent — ask them what kind of story the cards seem to be telling. You’ll get all the credit for being amazing and insightful, but they’ll have done most of your work for you. It’s definitely more effective than trying to figure out what they want to hear, or frantically trying to recall stuff you memorized about a card.
I refer both new and experienced readers to Robert M. Place’s book The Tarot: History, Symbolism, and Divination. He lays out a bunch of different examples of this technique. I posted a couple of cards above I drew for someone last year, which seem to be in total opposition.
How would you read them, readers? Send me some of your observations via the Ask form and I’ll compile them for a future post.
Just a reminder that when I’m swamped with questions, I may just pick the few most thoughtful, answerable, or tempting ones. If yours doesn’t pop up within a week or so, feel free to repost.
Meanwhile: questions about Tarot itself will always float to the top of my queue because they’re a lot less time-consuming to answer. If you’re looking to improve your own practice or have questions about the cards themselves, hit me up.
Anonymous asked: As much as I want and hope for a love relationship, I feel as though it's not "meant for" me. As if fate has said I'm not allowed one. I'm losing hope the older I get but I don't want to settle for being alone the rest of my life.
"I feel as though it’s not ‘meant for’ me. As if fate has said I’m not allowed one."
If you want to find love, then that feeling is your enemy. As long as you feel that way, Querent, you’ll be less likely to try, or to recognize opportunities as they pass. Find the root of it, and dig it out.
The Star is your pure, distilled self. Even if you wind up being alone for long expanses of your life — which is so common and so natural, Querent, that it can hardly be considered a failure — you don’t have to settle for being alone. It is a completely noble and worthwhile way to be. If that time is dominated by feelings of bitterness and anxiety over your solitude to a point that stagnates your personal growth, then that is the failure.
We all have the capacity to ripen, deepen, mature. It’s just a matter of whether we actually choose to, what path we lay out for ourselves.
You can accomplish many wonders between now and your next relationship, Querent. When others behold you, you will sparkle and shine with them.
When there’s no one around to behold you, you’ll still sparkle and shine all the same.
redreila89 asked: My name is Amanda (04/26/1989) and my son's father name is Jeffrey (6/9/1986). We were together for six years until I left him early November. I loved him when I left him, but felt it was necessary at the time. Wednesday I gave him an envelope containing three letters on how I felt and my wishes. Today on facebook I friend requested him and left him a message about our son. He has not accepted or contacted me back. My Q is will we get back together or can you give me some insight/advice?
When you bare your soul to someone, don’t be surprised if they take you at your word. They may not like what you have to say, but eventually they’ll probably respect your commitment to your position.
If you reverse or alter that position a short time later, they’re correct to proceed with caution — what you’re telling them is that you don’t have a firm grasp of your own motivations. It’s hard for someone to take you at your word if that word keeps changing, ya know?
You’ve said what you had to say. You don’t have control over how or when he responds. He needs to satisfy his obligations to his child, and if it comes to that, there are ways to make sure this happens that don’t involve personal, emotional appeals.
Focus on your own small corner of the universe. Spend time learning more about your own needs and boundaries. He deserves the chance to decide his own course based on everything you’ve laid out. Continuing to press him for a reaction is unlikely to work out in your favor.
Anonymous asked: I've been in love with the same boy for about a year, he is my best friend, and I couldn't imagine my life without him. He was having girlfriend troubles and started becoming really flirty with me, but now he thinks they're getting back together and I feel used and lead on. Was it all just an ego boost? Did he actually love me? And is it a lost cause to wait for him, should I just move on?
Sorry Querent, but if it’s not nourishing you, then it’s not love.
Whatever small thing happened between you, it sounds like you both got a temporary ego boost out of it, and it doesn’t sound like he took anything that you didn’t freely offer. You’re no longer getting the benefit of that boost because of expectations you brought to the situation. Maybe he should have been a little wiser about it, but it’s not his responsibility to tend the garden of your feelings, Querent — it’s yours.
Breakups can be confusing times. Never get involved with someone who’s in the throes of one, unless you can do so from a place of total confidence and generosity, or unless you have your own comfortable perch to retreat to.
Forgive him. Forgive yourself. Cultivate love in more receptive places. Repeat as necessary.