Anonymous asked: What can I do to allow myself to heal and love?
By helping others and being a reliable source of support and comfort for them. Helping people deal with their own suffering can help you slip out from under your own. Acting selflessly during difficult times is a way of reconnecting with your essential humanity. You’ll be able to build upward from there soon enough, Querent.
Anonymous asked: I'm on a verge of giving up, when are things going to finally start looking up for me, everyone around me seems to be getting fast results of their share of happiness
Mary K. Greer teaches that this can sometimes be seen as the “having-everything” but “longing-for-more” card. That tells me that you’ve got more going for you in this situation than you realize. There’s a saying that goes “Never compare your insides to other people’s outsides.” I bet those people around you who seem so happy are dealing with some of the same doubts that you’ve got.
Anyhow, don’t begrudge other people their happiness, real or illusory. Eyes on your own work, Querent! You’re not in a competition with anyone else. You’re not even on the same game-board, in the same time-zone. Your path is entirely your own, so let’s start clearing it.
Make a list of your problems, large and small. Then take each problem and break it down into a list of smaller problems or tasks. Some those can be broken down even further, into even smaller bits. Now you have a list of manageable steps that will help you start small. Can’t tackle one whole big problem in one day? Okay fine — but maybe you can do the one tiny thing that will get you that much further along, making it that much easier for you to attempt it tomorrow.
The Two of Wands figure looks out into the distance, Querent, hungers for it — but does not yet dare go out into it. Focus on the ten feet of road right in front of you. It’s amazing how rapidly short distances add up into miles…
You won’t give up. It’s almost always easier to go on than it is to give up.
Anonymous asked: Im wondering if my ex boyfriend is the man I am supposed to be with (ie, marriage, soul mates, kids, etc). We were together for 6 months, recently broke up, but have been talking still and continuing to sleep together. Am I ruining my chance at finding the real man I am meant to be with, or is he it and this is just how its supposed to work out?
My deck seems to think that you could use a breath of fresh air, relationship-wise. It’s time to apply yourself in new directions. This is not a leap of faith — just a small step. The road will rise to meet it!
As long as he’s still getting the sex and companionship he wants, he has zero incentive to officially get back together with you OR to break things off entirely. Think about it, Querent.
avidplecostomus-deactivated2013 asked: I have been having a lot of struggles in my life lately. I feel damned no matter what decision I make. Every major choice I must make in my life recently lead to major changes and possible loss. What should I do?
Something about the simplicity of your question moves me. I bet there are some sad stories there…
Three versions of the same woman, unrecognizable to each other. On the left, the grieving Queen who is certainly wiser for her tragic experiences, but who’s grown a bit colder, a bit more defensive. She gazes off stage left, not yet ready to move on.
On the right, we have Justice. One might read her as a sort of triumphant version of the first card — she wields the same sword, but with defiance and confidence. Where the figure on the left is veiled, the figure on the right looks directly outward at us, clear-eyed and unblinking. She is propelled forward by the sheer force of her desire to make things right, to set the record straight.
Remember this as you travel the “Sadder <—-+—-> Wiser” spectrum: this unfortunate period marks the end of a significant cycle in your life. Once you loosen your grip on that sword, a whole bevy of other magical tools will reveal themselves to you, spurring you to venture out in other directions. The woman on top of The World may look like she’s falling, but she’s actually dancing — above “right” and “wrong” decisions, above friends and enemies alike. That is what awaits you, when you’re ready. Whatever happens after that is anyone’s guess…
Wisdom is the product of experience, which usually is shorthand for “suffering.” But there is contentment in wisdom. There will be times later on when your life seems incredibly boring, with no major changes to be made or risks to be taken, but then you’ll remember phases like the one you’re currently going through and feel gratitude and awe all over again.
Damnation isn’t real, Querent, but despair is. Try to think instead that you are blessed no matter what decision you make, no matter what the outcome may be. You are blessed either way. Loss is always possible, that’s why it’s pointless to fear it.
Take care, you.
paranoidrachoid asked: what a beautiful deck! may i find a copy of it these days? what is it? thank you, and congrats on the wonderful blog :) love of tarot for life!
It’s the Victoria Regina deck (their site seems to be all sorts of broken). The deck is currently out of print — I don’t see any for sale on eBay, and Amazon has some for nearly $200.
I’m so glad you’re enjoying the blog! Thanks for your kind words.